Your money mindset will play a significant role in how you manage money for better or worse. Your life experiences, your family, TV, friends and past mistakes will all shape how you view money. Discovering where your money mindset comes from and whether it is helpful to you today will play a significant role in mastering your money.
What is a money mindset?
A money mindset is your prevailing attitude to money and your finances. This money mindset drives what you do with your money and how you think about money. More or less affecting every way you act and react to money in your life.
It’s the lens that you make money decisions through every day, and for better or worse, it can make your money management and achievement of your goals a blessing or a curse.
Common money mindsets
I know I have had a few of these, do you recognise any in yourself, friends or family?
- (The classic) Money can’t make you happy – maybe not but might be worth trying out to be sure
- Money is the route of all evil – slightly miss quoted as it should read “the love of money is the route of all evil”. But again, it depends on what you love money for.
- Money doesn’t grow on trees – well in the UK we know that the government does have a magic money tree and often shakes it very hard.
- We can’t afford it
- Everyone else is in debt / doing it
- “I’m not motivated by money” – ok, that may be partially true, but I doubt you have asked your company not to pay you! Didn’t think so.
Common negative money mindsets
- I’ll never be good at money
- My debt will never be paid off
- I’ll never make as much money as…..Rita, Sue or Bob
- He, she, they are lucky and inherited all their wealth.
- You can’t get rich without cheating someone out of their money.
Where do you get a money mindset from?
Yep, its more or less your parent’s fault again. Well sort of. How they handled money, talked about money, and then imprinted that on you is likely were part of your mindset came from.
Whether your parents did or did not have a lot of money and subsequently how they managed this surplus or deficit will have imprinted a subliminal or explicit set of ideas in your mind.
This imprint might have resulted in you copying them or rebelling against them in your own behaviours or money management system (or lack of one).
The management of money or lack of it will have leaked out into everything that happened in your household. The constant arguments or tension around spending or the carefree go on treat yourself attitude.
- Were there conversations about what neighbours or friends were doing?
- Did you ever see your parents manage money, i.e. sitting down with a spreadsheet or bank statements?
- Were there conversations about not having the money to do this or that? And framed negatively?
Frenemies with their money mindsets
Your friends, of course, played their part. Most likely exhibiting traits of their parents and how they managed their money.
Whether it was easy come, easy go or held onto with an iron fist, i.e. the one that always disappeared when it was their round (I just needed the toilet at that exact moment honestly!).
When you were young, you likely more or less hung around people with similar economic backgrounds. Stark differences in income or wealth may not have been that apparent, yet.
However, now that you all have your own careers, it may be all too painful to see the city banker is not ordering water anymore with their lobster.
How TV affects your money mindset
Tv will have played a big part in your money mindset. My balanced view of money came from watching Dallas and Dynasty. No, more like Only Fools and Horses.
How you were exposed to rich and famous lifestyles without any understanding of how or if they were as wealthy as they looked may have skewed your thoughts on money.
Nowadays, celebrity culture means you can see the “lives” people are leading 24/7. But have no idea if or how they are earning or paying for what they do or have. Are they affording it, affording the interest payments or it’s all a mirage?
“You never know who’s swimming naked until the tide goes out
The above quote means someone can afford something while everything is going great, but one wobble and the whole thing comes tumbling down, exposing their bits for all to see—something like a lost job, an unexpected bill or a global pandemic, the usual stuff.
Social media and your money mindset
Being able to peer into nearly everyone’s public persona can also skew your money mindset and how you use your money.
Seeing the highlights of friends and family gives you little understanding of how someone afforded something or the timescale of the fantastic events. What is does do is make you look at your life and compare it against others.
Have you had as many luxury items, holidays makeovers as your friends appear to have had?
Have you also experienced their worries and concerns about how they are going to afford the payments or the things they can’t do because there are up to their neck in debt?
What do you read and why do you read it?
What you read can also play a significant role in your view of the world and money’s place in it.
Are you reading lots of education books on philosophy, business or personal finance? Or are you swinging to the other side of the scale covering excess lifestyles and consumption porn (people spending far more money than they have on stuff they don’t need)
- Are you regularly reading books that educate you in whatever field you like and some wider ones?
- Do you read quality news sources?
- Do you read more than 12 books a year?
Are you reading for information and learning or for entertainment, and what is the balance between the two? Too much of one over the other may have unintended consequences.
Maybe your reading makes you fascinated in the choices you and people make or perhaps it just results in you wanting to know how you can get the latest gadget/hairstyle.
Is your reading helping you to think through your challenges, inspire you to change for the better and take decisive action? Or is it vegetating your brain?
Relaxation is essential and a good Simon Kernick novel is always fun. Severed is one of my favourites. Waking up with a severed head in your bed is always going to get the blood rushing – no pun intended.
Why might my money mindset be holding me back?
Is your mindset around money causing you to make poor financial choices?
- Spending too much?
- Saving too little?
- To scared to invest?
- Compete or compare with others who appear to have more money?
- Being over-cautious or far too brazen with your finances?
The above and more can be the negative outcomes of your money mindset resulting in poor money management and financial habits.
Realising that the short term short-lived excitement around spending money on stuff might cost you your longterm goals can help put money into perspective.
Remembering your long-term vision of what you really want, a house, to work part-time or make work optional should help with decisions around short term lifestyle spending.
Focusing on what you really want rather than what you want right now might help you make better financial choices and strengthen your positive money mindset.
What is the right attitude toward money?
A more positive mindset towards money is one that is goal orientated looking at the long term outlook of your actions and choices.
Appreciating what you have and being optimistic about the future will help put things in perspective and help you make any positive changes that are needed.
Seeing money as a tool, neither good nor bad will help put money in its place.
The more optimistic you can be, taking the actions that need to happen to manage the money coming in and out of your life, the more in control you will feel.
- Tracking your income and outgoings
- Spending less than you earn
- Saving towards exciting goals or a bucket lists of things and experiences.
- continuing to develop your financial literacy
One of the most significant steps in a positive money mindset is letting go of past mistakes. Treating them as lessons learnt will help with moving to a more positive outlook on money.
What money mindset thoughts do you have that might be holding you back?
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Through this education and guidance process, you will be able to make informed choices for yourself and start taking action towards your Financially Happy life now before it becomes even more painful and expensive.
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