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Stressed about money all the time? 6 ways to take back control of your money.

Stressed about money all the time?

If money worries are keeping you awake at night, it’s probably time to take back control of your finances once and for all.

Financial anxiety can play a very damaging role in your physical and mental health, work and private relationships.

Getting control of your money and not having your money control you will make a massive difference in your life and stress levels.

You are not alone when it comes to feeling stressed about money. With a few simples steps, you can begin to understand what’s going on and how to make money work for you.

Read on to find out how to take back control over money and reduce your financial stress.

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How can i take the strain?

The first thing to do is know your numbers.

Without understanding what’s going on, you may never get to the bottom of where the leaks are.

The numbers you need to know are

  • What’s your current net worth – everything you owe vs own.
  • How is coming in every week, month or year
  • How much are you spending every week, month, year.
  • How much of your cash flow do you get to keep, i.e. leftover after all the spending.

These figures will give you your headline figures and how good, bad or ugly it looks overall.

Even if this is not that a pleasant experience, it is starting to demystify what is going on.

The good news is that you don’t need to spend that much time on these activities as there are apps out there that will take a lot of the strain of this away for you.

Money and banking apps

With these sorts of apps, most of the analysis is done for you. There is a bit of set-up at the beginning and occasionally classifying new spending, but it will produce graphs and pie charts galore to show you what’s going on.

From here, you can begin to review what’s going on, spotting leaks and plugging them asap.

You might be surprised how much you are spending on utilities, going out or food shopping.

You can then use this info to compare other places to get these services and or haggle for cheaper options.

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Set up your bank accounts to take care of themselves

Automate your accounts

The next thing to do to ease your money worries is to automate as much as you can.

Setting up direct debits for all your regular bills will take the strain out of trying to remember when they need to be paid.

You just need to make sure that the bank account they come from is always stocked with enough money to pay them.

The way to do this is to have a bills bank account set up that just pays regular bills.

There are a few variations of this 3 bank account system

  1. A current account that money is paid into
    1. Automatically transfer the amounts needed to your bills account
    2. Automatically transfer some money to your savings account
    3. The money left over in this account is your day to day spending money.
  2. Bills account where all your bills are paid from
  3. Savings account – emergency fund, holiday money etc

In this way, you get to take the strain out of what to do with your money as it’s done for you at the beginning of each month or on a date you choose.  

You might want more accounts if you want to separate each thing you are saving for, whatever works for you to get your money working towards what you want now and in the future.

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Plan for when the emergency comes

Build an emergency fund

An emergency fund will be a great stress reliever if you know you have enough money to ride out nearly any storm.

It’s common to hear people recommending having 3-6 months expenditure in an emergency fund.

The principal aim of an emergency fund is to prevent, mitigate or cope with a financial shock.

An emergency fund will help prevent you from going into debt to solve a problem and potentially starting a spiral of financial difficulties.

3-6 months of savings could help you deal with

  • House or car repairs
  • Medical expenses
  • Redundancy or gaps in employment

Depending on your circumstances and area of employment, you might want a bigger or smaller emergency fund, whatever helps you sleep at night.

Start small and keep building it until you reach your desired emergency fund size.

Keep the emergency fund in a separate account if that helps keep it away from sticky fingers.

You may also want to agree with yourself or others about what constitutes an emergency and what is just poor planning.

If you forgot someone’s birthday and need a present fast – is that an emergency or just a tricky situation?  

Being clear on what is and is not an emergency will help keep your fund ready for a real emergency.

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Deal with your debt

If you have significant debt, then you may well need to start dealing with that asap.

You can try a couple of different methods to get your debt under control.

The first is to stop digging.

  • Remove the temptation to spend – get rid of sale alerts, offers and other ways that companies tempt you to spend money. Delete unsubscribe from promotions.
  • Don’t go shopping online or to shops for entertainment or leisure; do something less useless instead.
  • Don’t hand round with friends who spend, spend, spend.
  • Trying doing things at home, eat at home, entertain at home.
  • Get rid of the credit or store cards that are causing you to go further and further into debt.

Secondly, figure out how you might pay off your debts

  • Always pay the minimum on all debts
  • Snowball: find the smallest debt and pay it off and then move to the next.
  • Avalanche: find the biggest or most expensive debt and pay that off first. Then move to the next biggest and so on
  • Equal share: Pay them all with an equal amount (at least the minimum needed) until they are all paid off.

If you are in a debt crisis, then these organisations can provide free advice.

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Find the support you need

Seek help: you're not alone

If you would like to work on transforming your knowledge, attitude and habits around money, then it might be worth undertaking some personal development through

DIY learning

  • Books
  • Podcasts
  • YouTube Videos

Doing it with someone else like working with a financial coach

  • Helping you get financially organised.
  • Understand how much is enough.
  • Planning to achieve more of what you want.
  • How to never run out of money

Having someone do it for you like a financial advisor.

  • Able to advise and sell you relevant products.
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Design, plan and action your ideal life

Design your own GAME Plan

A key part of worrying less about money is having a plan.

Understanding what you really want is a great way to block out all the noise of modern life and pursue what’s most important to you.

If you were to spend time figuring out your goals in every area of your life, the clarity you would gain from this might help save you a lot of time and effort.


Figuring out your goals in these areas of your life might be the key to reducing stress and improving your focus.

  • Health – mind and body
  • Wealth – material things as well as savings
  • Social – time for friends, family, hobbies and interests
  • Community – giving back and making a difference wherever you are.


Understanding what you want to achieve should give you a few ideas of what might need to happen.

Do you need more knowledge on a subject/s to get to where you want to be?

  • How to manage your money
  • How to set up a website
  • How to start a business

Do you need to look at your attitude or mindset – do you have a fixed or open mindset, and how might that set free your talents and abilities to achieve what you want?

  • Don’t be down on yourself; remember what you have already achieved.
  • Mistakes are just painful learning events.
  • The pain of discipline or the pain of regret

What habits do you currently have that are helping or not, and what new habits do you need to develop to make progress easier or quicker.

  • Get up early.
  • Go to bed early.
  • Cut out social media.


What means do you have to create more money?

  • Could you manage what you have better?
  • Could you get paid more?
  • Could you create another source of income?

Do you have any business ideas that might cover

  • What you’re good at.
  • What you enjoy doing.
  • What the world needs.
  • What people will pay you for.

There might be gold in some of the ideas if you are able to answer all 4.

However, if you can only answer 3 or less you might find ideas that

  • Make a lot of money, but you hate doing it.
  • Love it but can’t make any money in it.

Execute, review and revise!

Start now; wait to get perfect later.

Start your plan to change your life.

It won’t all go smoothly, but you will be able to review what worked and what didn’t.

Then you can revise and carry on.

Little by little, achieving more of what’s important to you.

With your own GAME Plan, who knows what you might achieve

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You will be surprised what you can achieve when you try

FAQ: Stressed about money all the time

Why does money give me anxiety?

  • Not knowing whats going on with your money
  • No control over what’s coming in or going out
  • Fear of not knowing how much is enough
  • No GAME Plan to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

How do you stop financial anxiety?

  • Start tracking your finances.
  • Understand your numbers.
  • Figure out how much is enough.
  • Start an emergency fund.
  • Put a plan in place to achieve more of what’s important to you.

How does money cause stress?

  • Uncertainty over how much is enough.
  • Uncertainty over the future and how your current situation leads to a good or bad outcome.
  • Money worries lead to physical and mental stress, lack of sleep, and worry resulting in poor decision-making, which causes further financial problems.
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Summary: Stressed about money all the time. 6 ways to take back control of your money.

Let apps take the strain of analysing what is going on

Automate your bank accounts. Get bills and saving done without you getting in the way.

Build an emergency fund of at least 3-6 months expenditure to help you ride out any major or minor emergencies.

Deal with your debt either by organising how you will pay them off using the snowball, avalanche or equal share methods or by seeking debt advice.

Seek help either through DIY research, working with a financial planner/coach or a financial advisor.

Design yourself a GAME Plan to figure out your goals and how to achieve them.

Anyway, those are my thoughts on being stressed about money all the time; let me know yours in the comments below.

Thanks for reading.

Are you stress about money all the time ? Would having a GAME plan or financial life planning and coaching help understanding your money and life needs? 
  • Is your life, job and financial admin in a mess?
  • One or two months away from financial disaster if you quit?
  • Not enough time or money to achieve what’s most important to you?
  • No idea how to plan, save and invest to become financially secure?  

What’s likely to be the outcome if you don’t make some serious financial plans and start saving?

Without making some clear plans you are at real risk of having nothing to fall back on when things change for the worse. 

Financial life planning and coaching will give you the support, guidance, and accountability you need to succeed with money and life, building your savings and wealth.

  • Get you financially organised
  • Build your savings cushion for when things go wrong
  • Help you figure out how much money is enough
  • Help you understand and build wealth to never run out of money

Start building your money confidence now because waiting will only make it more expensive and painful to achieve later.

Plan, build and enjoy your money.

Taking you from life and financial crisis to happiness.

Contact us here for a free chat about building your money confidence and what options you might have for creating wealth in every area of your life.

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